Not #girlboss, #justboss Outfit

Sarah Michelle Gellar recently took to Twitter to ask, “Why does it have to be ? Why not Gender is not relevant to work ethic or success.” While I had taken a liking to the whole #girlboss thing, I’ve been an SMG fan since the Swans Crossing days and I decided to take the time to ruminate on it.

All of my life I have looked young for my age. For almost a decade I worked in a male-dominated industry and I was often underestimated because my gender and my general appearance. I have taken great joy in showing the doubters, and the nay-sayers, and the – dare I say it – haters, just who’s boss. In retrospect, the sweetest victories were always the ones where my adversary acknowledged that I was damn good at my job, no qualifiers necessary.

Recently, I’ve experience some real growth at work. I’m feeling truly confident and empowered. After a year and a half, I’m realizing just how strong the bonds I have developed in that short time truly are. To put it succinctly, I’m feeling like a boss. #Justboss

On a lighter, but still related note; I wore this outfit the other day and felt like a total boss. In the wise words of Stacy London, “Seeing, feeling, thinking, believing – these are the stages of how we change our style on the outside and our self-image on the inside.”


Side note – You’re seeing the commuter version here (I didn’t rock my black Underarmour trainers all day), but I still feel like it totally works. During the 9-5 I sported these shiny loafers from Zara instead:


Eat Here: Ink

Food is an amazing thing. It can bring back powerful memories, it can make friends out of total strangers, it can make you happy (or sad – like when I burn popcorn), and those are just a few of the everyday things that food can do (I’m not going to get into the larger socio-economic implications, this isn’t that kind of blog). The bottom line is that there is really no limit to the power of food.

As a lover of food, an aspiring foodie of sorts, the type of person who will not let herself say that she does not like a food or a flavor or a texture if she has not tried it, I realized that it was completely erroneous that I was not including my dining experiences on the blog. Now, since I can get pretty passionate about these things (I can go on for hours about my love of Trader Joe’s creamy toscano syrah-soaked cheese), I’m going to do my best to just give you the skinny on these places. Since I’m still me, I’m also going to tell you about the dress code. Let me know in the comments if there’s anything you’d like to hear more about or any details you’d like me to add to these posts.

Restaurant: ink

Location: Los Angeles, CA

Chef: Michael Voltaggio (he’s also the owner and the winner of season six of Top Chef)

Cuisine: New American (emphasis on the New, very cool stuff going on here)

What I Wore: Patterned Amanda Uprichard dress, black GAP moto jacket, black tights, black Rosegold booties, See by Chloe cross-body bag, Personalized pendant necklace, Ross Simons open triangle stud earrings.

Was I Dressed Appropriately: Yes. Since ink has a very cool vibe you can definitely go with a more casual look than I did, but you need to put some effort in. Another couple arrived at the same time as us and the woman was wearing light jeans, a white shirt, and a pale pink Louis Vuitton Louise bag. So I’d say the attire can run anywhere from date-night to off-duty model.

What We Ate: V and I agreed that this meal was one of the top three of our all-time favorites. Our waitress recommended ordering anywhere from 5-7 small plates to share and so we went with the following six:

  1. japanese scallop, soy-cured papaya, fermented chili, basil
  2. smoked hamachi, cherry peppers, px vinegar, crispy onions
  3. beef tartare, hearts of palm, sea bean chimichurri, horseradish, rye
  4. egg yolk gnocchi, mushroom brown butter, hen of the woods
  5. pasta paella, truffle coulis
  6. pork shoulder, mustard tofu, beets, toasted garlic

The ‘Oh My Word’ Order: The idea of the ‘Oh My Word’ Order is probably pretty obvious, but in case it’s only clear in my strange mind, I’ll clarify – this is going to be the one item that had my eyes rolling back in my head. Keep in mind that in this instance, every single item we ordered was worthy of that distinction, but I’m going to pick the egg yolk gnocchi. Mushrooms can be a real deterrent for me – if white button or crimini are involved in a dish you can most definitely count me out – but Hen of the Wood is fancy and delicious and I seriously contemplated licking the bowl before they took it away (that’s a compliment in some cultures, right?). The flavors and textures of this dish were just so completely on point that my mouth is literally watering thinking about it. Oh. My. Word.

What We Drank: V had one of the house cocktails with gin falernum, thyme, honey, lemon. I went with a new standard of mine, an Aviation, which was delicious.

Check, please: So the final verdict, as I mentioned earlier, was that this was one of the best meals of our lives. Not only was it delicious, but every single member of the staff was awesome, the plates were perfectly timed, the dishes perfectly seasoned, the space was cool and energetic, but still dimly lit enough for it to feel intimate and romantic. If you live in the LA area or plan to travel there any time soon, I would 100% recommend this place.

*Going forward I will do my best to take pictures, but V and I were so busy enjoying this meal that neither of us took any. That alone should speak volumes.



App Alert

As a lover of quotes, I’m always looking for new ways to display them. Over the weekend I came across this great app called Retype that allows you to turn your words (or someone else’s) into iconic designs.  

 Add text to the backgrounds provided or use your own photos for an even more personalized presentation. I’ve only just started to play around with the app, but I thought I’d share my first shot at it:

This dawned on me earlier and it made me chuckle.

Want to try it for yourself? Download it from the App Store*:  

 *Just thought I’d note that this is not an advertisement or sponsored plug of any sort, this is not that kind of blog. 

Making Monochrome Work for Me

Petite ladies like myself can really benefit from dressing in one color from head to toe.  When I initially purchased these Banana Republic pants I figured I’d style them à la Katharine Hepburn and pair them with a classic white button down. After trying them on I realized that the waist is far lower than the kind ol’ Kath wore and wearing them that way would elongate my waist and make me look boxy.

Then I remembered that I had this slim-fit, fine-rib wool turtleneck which is also from Banana Republic (albeit about 15 years ago – seriously, I’ve had it since High School). When I put them on together I had one of those fantastic a-ha/new favorite outfit moments. I’ve been trying to get back to a simpler style of dressing and this just felt so right.

The pants are nicely lined and a really great weight, so they are perfect for winter work wear in NYC. While I normally wear a 2P in Banana Republic pants, I needed to go a size up in these. The charcoal is sold out in petite, but some standard sizes are still available here or you can buy the petite in brown instead here.

What are your favorite winter wardrobe items and looks? Leave them in the comments.

Some prettier poses…


And then the outtakes


Cheers to 2016

V and I celebrated the New Year with dinner at out favorite local spot, Viaggio Tapas, which is just a short walk from the apartment. It’s a cozy place with rustic chic decor and a staff that really makes an effort to get to know you, find out what you like, and offer suggestions if you’re interested in that sort of thing (which V and I definitely are).

The weather was pretty mild, but chillier than it’s been, so I took the opportunity to break out my leather pants.

Blazer: Zara Tee: t+j Designs Pants: BCBG Boots: Rosegold

The restaurant was packed, as is to be expected on New Year’s Eve, so my jacket had to go once we were seated.


Posing with the remains of my glass of Albarino

Dinner was delicious. Since Viaggio is a tapas restaurant, we’d been searching for that perfect series of small plates that combine to make a perfect meal and we think we finally found it:

  • Shishito Peppers with Black Maldon Salt
  • Confit Garlic Shrimp with Tio Pepe Sherry
  • Lamb Meat Balls
  • Lamb Chops with Mascarpone Pistachio Gelee
  • Dessert: Ice Cream Sandwiches served on teeny-tiny Macarons

The staff did such a terrific job of moving things along that by 10PM we were on our way home.

Upon our arrival I promptly ditched my dinner attire for a more couch-friendly ensemble.


I’m ready to Par-tayyyyy!

Loving our new gilded monogram DOF glasses – a Christmas gift from my mom – you can get them here.

And that’s a wrap – wishing you a happy, healthy, and successful 2016!

Farewell, Patricia Field

Recently I learned that Patricia Field’s store was closing. Pat Field may be best known to the world at large as the costume designer for Sex and the City, but her store has been a New York City mainstay long before Carrie and her crew roamed the streets of NYC.

Patricia Field has been in business for 50 years, but they’ve only occupied this space on the Bowery since 2012 (according to one of her many helpful and friendly employees). The current location is two floors worth of kitschy-chic fabulousness – costume jewelry with doll heads, an insane collection of affordably-priced sunglasses, brightly colored wigs, vintage shoes and apparel, clutch bags featuring big googly eyes for only $18, and so much more. In hindsight, it’s probably better that I never went in before now, I probably would have gone broke shopping there over the years. The prices are ridiculously reasonable, but there is so much sparkle that a magpie such as myself could never possibly have enough.

There’s so much more to Patricia Field’s store than I could ever put into one blog post. As I perused the delightfully cluttered mirrored shelves and tried on custom millinery items, an employee stopped a drag queen on his way out of the store, “no one ever recognizes me out of drag,” he remarked, clearly surprised. But that’s the kind of place it is. Even though I’d never been to her old shop in Greenwich Village, at that moment, I felt nostalgic for it.

Pat herself was nowhere to be found, but I probably would’ve just geeked out and had a major internal battle about whether or not it’s appropriate – or totally dorky – to ask her for a selfie. As I write and re-write this post I just feel like a total fangirl. So here are some photos from my visit. Hopefully they will inspire you to make your own pilgrimage before the store is set to close in early 2016.

Felt like Scarlett O’Hara when I realized I’d put it on backwards

Much better

Perhaps a more pared down version? Nah

I was torn about the shirt until a member of the staff (who also happens to model some of the clothes on the website) told me to cuff the sleeve, “I always do a cuff” he told me. Done!

Having fun with the fun house mirrors in the dressing room

Only $25 for these over-sized button-style earrings?! I had to have them.

And, finally, I will leave you with the most recognizable piece in the whole place, the Carrie necklace.

 Get your own here

Double Tuxes

Last weekend V’s brother and our sister-in-law got married on the East End of Long Island.  It was a beautiful day and a wonderful reason to get all decked out. Their colors were mint and navy, so V was clad in an all-navy tux and mint tie. I saw this as the perfect opportunity to rock my Stella McCartney tuxedo jumpsuit which I scored on sale at the Barney’s Outlet months earlier. Before I saw this picture I thought I looked super tall, but the minute you put me next to my brolic hubby I am reminded that I am a peanut. We still looked stellar though, if I do say so myself.

My sweet sister-in-law was kind enough to include me with the bridal party as they got their hair and makeup done that morning. While I opted out of the hair (sometimes a simple blowout is best), I was all in for the makeup. I showed the make-up artist, the delightful and talented Evy Drew whose clients include Ana Gasteyer and Mary-Louise Parker, what I was wearing and together we decided on the below look. A bold lip, a clean eye, and a bold brow for balance. This brow is what I must strive to achieve on my own. #Goals

The bride looked stunning (seriously, my SIL could be a model) and the groom looked smashing. We had the most wonderful time and danced the night away.

The Eyes Have It

The hunt for the perfect lipstick led me to Bergdorf Goodman on my lunch break as they are the only beauty counter in NYC that carries the Charlotte Tilbury line. Sadly, Ms. Tilbury’s lipstick are all a bit too peachy for me, but on my way out I stumbled upon a very helpful fellow at the Trish McEvoy counter.  Richard had Warren Beatty Shampoo-level hair and was wearing multiple pieces of David Yurman jewelry. He was confident and informative, but not pushy. 

I explained that I had been looking for an Anastasia counter so I could purchase their brow gel, but within moments he’s convinced me that that wasn’t at all what I needed. 

You see, gel flakes. Wax guides and looks natural and I can use a brow pencil to fill in as light or as heavy as I’d like. 

Before I could say, “I’ll take both,” Richard was working his magic with the brand’s Instant Eye Lift which conceals the bags that, according to Richard, are a product of genetics, not lack of sleep. Make that, “I’ll take all three.”  I walked out feeling like I just got a major makeover. My eyes looked brighter and my whole face read as more alert. I may have not found the perfect everyday lipstick I was looking for, but I’m really excited to play with the products I purchased.      

And in other exciting BG news:

Time for a Trim

To chop or not to chop, that has been the question for the past couple of months. While planning our wedding I insisted that I was going to cut my hair drastically after the big day and donate it. Unfortunately I found out that most organizations won’t accept gray hair, even if it’s already colored (explanation here, it actually makes sense) and the only one I found who will is Locks of Love, which has a shady past (explanation here). And so the long hair is here to stay for a bit longer. That being said, it was time to trim it up.

Here are the before shots:


My Pinterest Beauty board features haircuts from every end of the spectrum, but when it came down to it, I just asked her to add some long layers and take off the split ends. The result?

Nothing drastic, but I really like it. Have you taken a big hair risk lately? Tell me about it in the comments.

Finally, Fiorentini+Baker

What do Kate Beckinsale, Charlize Theron, Halle Berry and I have in common? These Fiorentini+Baker boots. For years I have wanted these boots. They have lived on my Pinterest “Lust List” board pretty much since it’s inception, but I always held off on buying them because I owned a perfectly nice pair of Calvin Klein motorcycle boots that fit well, looked nice, and I always received a lot of compliments on. And so I waited.

We’re prepping for a major event at work, so I’ve been spending long days at the office that have run well into the evening and, even when I get home, I’ve been doing more work. Sensing my stress, Vinny decided to do something beyond sweet and surprise me with them. They were waiting for me on the kitchen table when I walked in the door on Wednesday. I. FREAKED. OUT. I put them on right away and just wanted to live in them forever.

We were already home for the night so, naturally, I had to wear them the very next day. Unfortunately, I was a total struggles getting dressed this morning and I broke one of my cardinal rules (leggings are not pants), but I didn’t care because these boots are just instant badass.

So, thank you, V. You did not need to do this, but I am so, so, so glad you did.

My dear readers, do you have these boots or a pair that are similar? If so, how do you wear them? If not, how would you wear them? Discuss…